I hate confrontation. I mean really really detest being involved in it. Therefore, over the last few years as I have had to deal with a person on a regular basis who has a tendancy to be a bully to all those around them, I have just bit my tongue and and then done my best to avoid them. For the most part. I have once or twice spoken up. And this person, in true "I'm entitled to everything" form has ignored my protests and continued with the offensive behavior. Today they went a little too far and I snapped. I called this person a not very nice name in my response. I know I shouldn't have.
However, why should I just endure being bullied? Shouldn't I speak up? And when my original defenses get ignored, should I come on stronger?
What would you do? (Please keep in mind, this person not only treats myself inappropriately, but also my children.)
4 comments:
I'm sorry for the hard times. I don't know what the right thing is to do, other than to pray like crazy and follow the promptings you receive.
Oh dear. I'm sorry. I don't know. Get away from them as soon as you can and avoid them at all costs. Not always possible, I know. Waiting till you snap and call them a name might not be good either though. Especially if your children hear you. Pray, like Beccah said. Maybe have a neutral response planned out and repeat nothing else during a confrontation and maybe they'll get bored? Call me if you need to talk.
Say something like, "I"m sorry, but we can't be friends anymore."
“Don't let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and evict them.”
Think this might have been from the past Gen Conference or something. My friend posted it on FB.
A great quote!!! Kari you don't deserve that treatment!!
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